...A post recently came up on the TWBB about what is true love and some examples of it. I came up with a couple in that post, but I wanted to expand on that, so I've included them here and come up with a couple more.

True Love Is...
...when your DH cuts a piece of freshly baked brownie and a small scoop of vanilla ice cream and brings it to you at your computer and hopes that it makes you feel better (instead of telling you you're going to abandon your piece if you don't join him and the kids at the table to eat it) because the CSS/HTML that you're working with to make a new blog template is making you want to take a sledgehammer to the computer monitor...

...when your DH makes sure you have water and tea and a blanket and the remote when you're sick...

...when he sneaks a light quick kiss onto your cheek when he comes to bed, and you're half asleep (but he doesn't know that)...

...and when he writes "cuteness" emails about the antics of the little girls in the morning as he tries to herd them out the door to school...

...when he goes around shopping and finds you a large bag of Smarties (the Nestle Canadian chocolate) at the local British food store (that didn't have them before) and says they're all for you for CATS...

...when he puts his arm around you in the middle of the night to snuggle you...

...when the kids urp in your kitchen and he calls you about it - *after* cleaning it all up...

...when you both give up soda for Lent, and he gives you the first sip from the first one that he opens for himself...

...and when you get a hug and a smooch every day when you come home from work - no matter how the day went - and a hug and a smooch before either of you leaves the house and leaves the other behind for any reason...

...and when he takes you to the organization stores so that you can find a true solution for your stash closet and puts it in that very same night... and adds an additional shelf you buy later on without you nagging him about it... and he's not fond of your stash in the first place...

...when he reaches over and holds your hand while the two of you fall asleep...

...when he snuggles with you while watching television and he doesn't watch that much television...

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Now, these are all great little signs, but sometimes you need to hear those magic words: Buy whatever you want at the stitching store.

Kidding. I meant the important words. Yes, I know the ones I just said are important, but DH will never utter those to me. Wouldn't matter anyway, it's my money that gets spent on stash (although a stash present from him *would* be nice, but I won't hold my breath).

The words I meant were... I Love You. Those are the words that make you dance on air, melt you faster than ice cream on a 100 degree day, and comfort you when you're lonely. They are words that sometimes aren't said enough to some people, and maybe said too often to others. Sometimes they're said without meaning because that's what the other person needs to hear. Sometimes all they do is bring pain when they're said at the wrong time... maybe from someone you don't want to hear them from, maybe from someone you've hoped would say them for years.

Sometimes words aren't the best way to express it though. Sometimes it's the actions, such as the ones that I mention above, that speak even louder. It's the extra effort put into the relationship that you don't mention that you're doing - knowing you need some work on what you've got, and you just do in instead of saying that it's needed.

As I write this paragraph, Virgin Classic Radio did me the favor of spinning up U2's 'The Sweetest Thing', which has always been a good and descriptive song for me and DH - not about the pain that the vocalist is having about losing his love, but in a single set of lyrics alone:

"A blue eyed boy meets a brown eyed girl... ain't love the sweetest thing"...

...and with that I'll leave you to ponder your sweetest thing.